Love surfaces only you can forget your body because your body is the hive of all sensualities. So, through sensuality one cannot view the world rightly. Through sensuality nobody can’t intend rightly. A question could rise up ‘what about sex? Isn’t it the part of love! I’ll say no because it is only a pleasure which gives you a temporary feelings of pleasure. So, don’t mixed up Love and Sex together like the porn-stars. All these porn-stars will suffer in their imparted life time, only if they achieve the human conscious again.
True love manifest only through the Not-self because self is illusory. A self never sees the world rightly. It is always misguided by the wrong intention. So, you have to achieve the state of Not-self where everything goes together, harmonize together. And first step of being a Not-self must be through ‘exterior’. Through exterior Not-self you could enjoy the ‘Emptiness’. Emptiness means to know the phenomenal world as mirage or as they made up of cloud or as a dream, and know all the human beings and other organisms as apparitions without essence. Remember don’t try to essence them but judge them with qualities that can be seen.
Next step of realizing love is again Not-self but this time its through ‘interior’. That means interiorly you should feel the existence of Not-self, for instance you could feel your pet puppy as you or part of you. Lets take a try and feel that you perceive the very phenomenon through your little puppies consciousness.
Yes I might say this is the true love and always feel that the whole world is a part of the impermanence. If you feel your lover or wife through this sense then I might say, ‘yes this is the true love that I’ve been looking for since long long time.